What defines you?

When we encounter people in our life the first thing we are expected to do is introduce ourselves which is said to be the hardest thing to do. Now, it’s not because we don’t know ourselves but it’s because there are so many things we are comprised of that we cannot explain it in a nutshell. We are never in a nutshell, we are always in abundance. It’s like describing the smell of earth. You know its so pure that describing it would contaminate the feeling of it. 

This theory of self-description is what we know in our mind but what happens in public is we get lost. We know that we can never describe ourselves enough but we have to say something. So we end up describing the best of us in few words, few critical words, few words that define us in public, few words that we want the outside world to know about us. But you see, the few words are not what we are. They are a part of the whole. It’s just a preview of a an enigmatic movie which is you!

When people ask me about myself, my first instinct is always to say ,”Hey! My name is Tina and i am an introvert.” It’s because i want people to know that i am not further going to indulge into any kind of event where i entertain them with my special talent assuming introverts don’t entertain, not because they don’t have talent. I let this word ‘introvert’ define me everytime because of my very fear of judgements. It guards me from being vulnerable to this world. But nevertheless, i know that i am not just an introvert. Introvert is what i am to the people. It will never define who i am because i am more than that.

You are obviously not what you describe yourself in front of people because we are always cautious of our public image and our reputation when it comes to giving an introduction. It’s what we are taught. In an interview you are always expected to talk about yourself that flatters the interviewer. I always feel like a clown when it comes to being questioned in an interview of any sort. We have to perfom to impress. Ostentation has quite became the key to sell ourselves in order to sell our product. The point is:

1. Don’t let this public appearance of yours define who you are. 

2. You know who you are and anybody who says otherwise is oblivious. 

3. Don’t be scared for introducing the real you. There is no need to be ashamed.

4. First impressions never last. It’s perfectly fine to have a failed one.

5. You are not here to impress. Don’t confuse between impressing and expressing. It’s the latter you focus on.

6. What defines us is very subtle. Because we keep on learning and upgrading ourselves that everyday we change and we keep getting better. 

7. There is an inner strength in each one of us whether you are aware of it or not which helps us decide the flight or fight response.

Now you know that we are not our first impressions or what we introduce ourselves like because few words, few minutes and few people never define us.
                     

Narrator

We become the kind of person we read novels about and watch movies/series of. The way we see things is quite an outcome of how we comprehend our fictional lives. Being this person who lives a life more in fiction than reality, i always felt the way i comprehend things is very different than how people do. When you read lot of novels you kind of become this narrator which describes things in the way that the listener will also feel what you felt like when you were in the moment. Making the reader a spectator of your story is how you sell a great story. 

                      Aren’t we all the narrators of our own life? Then why is that we all view our life with the mediocre vision of boredom instead of an extraordinary exciting touch of our own fiction. It makes a lot of difference how we see things. Our life is our fiction but we don’t really narrate the way we should be. What happens in a good book or a good movie is what happens with us too. But it’s very unfortunate as to how we look at it. We are too busy focusing on what we should do more to achieve more and how to get better and better. It’s endless, you know, getting better is an endless journey. You can never convince yourself that you have finally became the person you always wanted to be. Because what ‘better’ means to us is always a step ahead from where is stand. We keep crying our entire life for the chances we missed, for never having enough. The thing is, we can never have enough of anything. Till the time infinity exist, we can never feel finite. We always want a little more and the little keeps getting bigger until it becomes a pile of huge trash. The trash of our lack of appreciation towards life. The trash which often becomes the reason for demotivation.
                    There is a difference, the difference between how we see things and how the same things are narrated in a novel/movie.

How we see:
A pen falls from my hand and the handsome guy sitting next to me picks it up.



How the novel says it:
I keep fidgeting with the pen and suddenly it slips from my hand, ends up on the ground. For fraction of moment i feel irritated until i see the handsome guy sitting next to me picking up the pen for me. I wonder what a gentleman he is! He hands over the pen to me and i smile sheepishly at him. Gratitude.

You see the difference? The difference of a little fictional vision. It is very must to have it, to feel a little more and better than our monotonous way of looking at things. I won’t suggest to feel the same way for every guy who picks up a pen for you, he might not be a gentleman but gratitude is always key to good relationships.

Things might not get better but your eyesight can definitely make a lot of difference. Comprehend things the way an author would do and your life will become the one you read about. Become the narrator who sells a good story, you are the protagonist, always.