When we encounter people in our life the first thing we are expected to do is introduce ourselves which is said to be the hardest thing to do. Now, it’s not because we don’t know ourselves but it’s because there are so many things we are comprised of that we cannot explain it in a nutshell. We are never in a nutshell, we are always in abundance. It’s like describing the smell of earth. You know its so pure that describing it would contaminate the feeling of it.
This theory of self-description is what we know in our mind but what happens in public is we get lost. We know that we can never describe ourselves enough but we have to say something. So we end up describing the best of us in few words, few critical words, few words that define us in public, few words that we want the outside world to know about us. But you see, the few words are not what we are. They are a part of the whole. It’s just a preview of a an enigmatic movie which is you!
When people ask me about myself, my first instinct is always to say ,”Hey! My name is Tina and i am an introvert.” It’s because i want people to know that i am not further going to indulge into any kind of event where i entertain them with my special talent assuming introverts don’t entertain, not because they don’t have talent. I let this word ‘introvert’ define me everytime because of my very fear of judgements. It guards me from being vulnerable to this world. But nevertheless, i know that i am not just an introvert. Introvert is what i am to the people. It will never define who i am because i am more than that.
You are obviously not what you describe yourself in front of people because we are always cautious of our public image and our reputation when it comes to giving an introduction. It’s what we are taught. In an interview you are always expected to talk about yourself that flatters the interviewer. I always feel like a clown when it comes to being questioned in an interview of any sort. We have to perfom to impress. Ostentation has quite became the key to sell ourselves in order to sell our product. The point is:
1. Don’t let this public appearance of yours define who you are.
2. You know who you are and anybody who says otherwise is oblivious.
3. Don’t be scared for introducing the real you. There is no need to be ashamed.
4. First impressions never last. It’s perfectly fine to have a failed one.
5. You are not here to impress. Don’t confuse between impressing and expressing. It’s the latter you focus on.
6. What defines us is very subtle. Because we keep on learning and upgrading ourselves that everyday we change and we keep getting better.
7. There is an inner strength in each one of us whether you are aware of it or not which helps us decide the flight or fight response.
Now you know that we are not our first impressions or what we introduce ourselves like because few words, few minutes and few people never define us.