Do people mean what they say when they say it? Do they continue to mean it? These questions can only be answered when people actually understand what they are saying. Most of us don’t. We don’t know what we are talking about. We just say it because it sounds most likely in the given time. We don’t feel accountable to those words. We say it because it feels good, it feels right. And who doesn’t like to be good and right?
People change. They are different the second time you meet them. They change everyday. They learn new things, unlearn old ones. We want others to stay the same because we have developed this comfort zone with their old self and we call their old self as their original one because that is the part of them we are friends with .’Original’ is something that never fades out i’ve heard. ‘Original’ is real i’ve heard. So when we change, do we become fake? Are we not real enough?
Well, we are real, as real as we can get. But we are not faithful, not enough to stick to our own words, to stick to our old self. We can never explain why we change because we cannot make someone else learn and unlearn what we did. Their life has a different meaning, they are not supposed to change the same way we did. That is why no one understands why we changed because they don’t have to.
So, we are real but unfaithful. And just to balance out the faith we become unreal so many times. We compromise, we try to be the same, we try to be what other people want us to be and that definitely makes us fake but we don’t care because we put faith first even if it comes at the cost of our new reality.
We happen to know alot of people in our life, in various forms. Let them be our friends or family or just aquaintance or whatever we name it. People play a very unexpected, sometimes happening sometimes not, role in your life. In our living we try to know them inside out, we try to make out their personalities of what they show to us. But not everytime what they show to us is what they actually are, and certainly its not negative to show something and be something in some cases. But what forms pure evil is when you use this as a weapon. Using emotions against someone is just so devious, yet some people don’t mind being one.
Maybe everybody is afraid to show their real self out to the world, feeling too vulnerable. People tend to fake it even if they hate being fake because even if we hate things we still have the potential to do it. Trust is what holds us from giving it away, whatever we have. Stronger minds have fragile hearts. The sinking feeling in your heart when the trust is broken is like a glass being shattered, loud enough to make you numb and sharp enough to hurt. You know why it is hard to trust again? Because nobody likes to commit a mistake twice, that’s what we were taught.
Humans are a mystery. Only the individual knows what he is inside out, what is to be shown and what is to be kept hidden. If you have to reveal what’s in the mystery you will have to use trust as a key, and perhaps the person will let you in his head. But what happens when you get there? What happens when what’s outside contradicts what’s inside? The key disappears. The trust ceases to exist.
What is to be deduced is that however close you might be to anybody there still exist the possiblity of you not knowing them inside out. But rather than questioning why the person didn’t show it enough, you should ask whether you have enough strength to see what he has to show. Because if you don’t then the mysteries will always be alive.