Imagine to be on a roller coaster. As you move forward you enter a loop and now you are constantly encircling it. How do you feel? I would say nauseous and desperate to exit the loop. This is exactly what happens in life. Times when we hit the low are the times when we are in a loop. We keep on overthinking even though we are really nauseous at our own thoughts and extremely desperate to find a way to stop them. One thing you need to know is that we can never stop thinking. The day we stop thinking we are not humans anymore. It’s the greatest privilege to be able to think, something atleast. You cannot stop the rollercoaster while inside the loop. You have to move forward and that is the only way. Stopping or quiting is nothing but putting yourself into jeopardy.
There are going to be bad days, real bad days. And they might stick with you for a while or more. You are going to feel upside down and you are going to feel that you won’t be able to ride any further, that you are going to be stuck forever in that loop. The truth is, that is not going to happen. You are gonna get a push which will take you ahead. You need to trust the process of life. If things get worse on their own then they get back together on their own, very naturally.
When we are broken, the last thing we want to do is trust someone or something. It takes a great deal to trust. There are good people with bad intentions. But can we ever know what intention someone has? Maybe or maybe not. Don’t try to figure it out by pressuring yourself. You will know when the time comes. Just like how you trust all the people you have in your life. But when i say trust i don’t mean trusting someone else, i mean trusting your own self. The only person on earth who would know about your intentions is you. And if that is not the case then let go off anything that is driving your mind. Take the charge of your life. Trust your life. Life is unfair but then so is everything and everybody. If it wasn’t unfair you would have probably taken it for granted. What’s the point of living if life doesn’t scares a little shit out of you.
So, to get past overthinking:
1. TRUST. Not others but yourself and the process of your life.
2. IGNORE. Not the people around you but that little voice inside your head that scares you or holds you from moving ahead. Everytime we decide to move on there is a part inside us which is afraid that we will end up getting hurt, again. Don’t listen to that voice and eventually it will get silenced.
3. GET BUSY. Leave no space for overthinking in your schedule. Do silly things that will occupy your time if you have nothing productive.
4. DEEP BREATHING TECHNIQUES. They definitely work to calm yourself down.
We become the kind of person we read novels about and watch movies/series of. The way we see things is quite an outcome of how we comprehend our fictional lives. Being this person who lives a life more in fiction than reality, i always felt the way i comprehend things is very different than how people do. When you read lot of novels you kind of become this narrator which describes things in the way that the listener will also feel what you felt like when you were in the moment. Making the reader a spectator of your story is how you sell a great story.
Aren’t we all the narrators of our own life? Then why is that we all view our life with the mediocre vision of boredom instead of an extraordinary exciting touch of our own fiction. It makes a lot of difference how we see things. Our life is our fiction but we don’t really narrate the way we should be. What happens in a good book or a good movie is what happens with us too. But it’s very unfortunate as to how we look at it. We are too busy focusing on what we should do more to achieve more and how to get better and better. It’s endless, you know, getting better is an endless journey. You can never convince yourself that you have finally became the person you always wanted to be. Because what ‘better’ means to us is always a step ahead from where is stand. We keep crying our entire life for the chances we missed, for never having enough. The thing is, we can never have enough of anything. Till the time infinity exist, we can never feel finite. We always want a little more and the little keeps getting bigger until it becomes a pile of huge trash. The trash of our lack of appreciation towards life. The trash which often becomes the reason for demotivation.
There is a difference, the difference between how we see things and how the same things are narrated in a novel/movie.
How we see: A pen falls from my hand and the handsome guy sitting next to me picks it up.
How the novel says it: I keep fidgeting with the pen and suddenly it slips from my hand, ends up on the ground. For fraction of moment i feel irritated until i see the handsome guy sitting next to me picking up the pen for me. I wonder what a gentleman he is! He hands over the pen to me and i smile sheepishly at him. Gratitude.
You see the difference? The difference of a little fictional vision. It is very must to have it, to feel a little more and better than our monotonous way of looking at things. I won’t suggest to feel the same way for every guy who picks up a pen for you, he might not be a gentleman but gratitude is always key to good relationships.
Things might not get better but your eyesight can definitely make a lot of difference. Comprehend things the way an author would do and your life will become the one you read about. Become the narrator who sells a good story, you are the protagonist, always.
There are times when people fail to understand you. They prefer to go with the obvious side of the story. The part which lifts heavy with emotions and which makes you seem emotionless and devious somehow. I don’t know how many people actually see through the situation and react or they just react for the sake of it but you remind yourself not to let people’s opinions about you turn into facts. You deal them casual, as ordinary like it doesn’t affect you. You are the only person at that point who knows the reasons for your decision and your acts and you are not answerable to anyone who is not in a position to understand your state. You are a strong mind, you are an individual person. Just like other’s opinions impact the situation so does yours. If you as an individual come out as independent, then there won’t be any sabotage on your part.
Sometimes we don’t look good, we don’t come off as a good person with a big heart who forgives people and always smiles. Here’s a thing, We don’t have to look good in front of people everytime. Sometimes, we have to be ourselves and even if the world judge you at that time or call you mean, you have to stand by your side. Being ourself is not associated with being a bad person. You have to show what you feel about somebody even if it hurts that person because sometimes saying the truth becomes necessary. You are not here to win hearts at the expense of your ownself. Its okay to be a little selfish and think about yourself because you are definetely not the only person who is thinking about self. It becomes a necessity when nobody else does think about you but only you do.