What defines you?

When we encounter people in our life the first thing we are expected to do is introduce ourselves which is said to be the hardest thing to do. Now, it’s not because we don’t know ourselves but it’s because there are so many things we are comprised of that we cannot explain it in a nutshell. We are never in a nutshell, we are always in abundance. It’s like describing the smell of earth. You know its so pure that describing it would contaminate the feeling of it. 

This theory of self-description is what we know in our mind but what happens in public is we get lost. We know that we can never describe ourselves enough but we have to say something. So we end up describing the best of us in few words, few critical words, few words that define us in public, few words that we want the outside world to know about us. But you see, the few words are not what we are. They are a part of the whole. It’s just a preview of a an enigmatic movie which is you!

When people ask me about myself, my first instinct is always to say ,”Hey! My name is Tina and i am an introvert.” It’s because i want people to know that i am not further going to indulge into any kind of event where i entertain them with my special talent assuming introverts don’t entertain, not because they don’t have talent. I let this word ‘introvert’ define me everytime because of my very fear of judgements. It guards me from being vulnerable to this world. But nevertheless, i know that i am not just an introvert. Introvert is what i am to the people. It will never define who i am because i am more than that.

You are obviously not what you describe yourself in front of people because we are always cautious of our public image and our reputation when it comes to giving an introduction. It’s what we are taught. In an interview you are always expected to talk about yourself that flatters the interviewer. I always feel like a clown when it comes to being questioned in an interview of any sort. We have to perfom to impress. Ostentation has quite became the key to sell ourselves in order to sell our product. The point is:

1. Don’t let this public appearance of yours define who you are. 

2. You know who you are and anybody who says otherwise is oblivious. 

3. Don’t be scared for introducing the real you. There is no need to be ashamed.

4. First impressions never last. It’s perfectly fine to have a failed one.

5. You are not here to impress. Don’t confuse between impressing and expressing. It’s the latter you focus on.

6. What defines us is very subtle. Because we keep on learning and upgrading ourselves that everyday we change and we keep getting better. 

7. There is an inner strength in each one of us whether you are aware of it or not which helps us decide the flight or fight response.

Now you know that we are not our first impressions or what we introduce ourselves like because few words, few minutes and few people never define us.
                     

A female’s voice.

She was the fire who could burn the evil,

Even when they shamed her she made her retrieval.

Her courage had the power to rule the sovereigns,

Yet her surrender wasn’t a defeat at all by any means.

She saw the good in the bad and a blessing in a curse,

Yet they failed to see the purity in her bleeding making her feel ashamed and worse.

What was her fault in enduring the natural things

Was it too hard to absorb truth for the human less beings?

From childhood she was taught how to be cautious,

Not from the animals but the wild people who will make her feel nauseous.

They called her a hypocrite for having liberal view,

These are the sexist who never thought her through.

She is the beautiful paradox left unexplained,

For that nobody had the calibre to understand the way she was pained.

She worshipped them with all her grace,

Times changed but her suffering got worse with the phase.

All a women wants is the respect she craved,

From the other human for all her silent sacrifices he graved.

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Happy international women’s day.

To all the strong womens out there, May we know them, May we be them, May we raise them!

Escape

Sometimes in life you cannot take it, what life has offered to you. You want to escape for once and for all. The mental escape into a peaceful landscape. You want to free yourself from all the ties that hold you back and makes it harder for you to breathe the tranquil air. They said freedom is a state of mind. But they never said to what extent our mind will be in the state of power to feel the freedom which is not obvious to the eyes. 

               How unknowingly that you started fighting this war we call life. And fiercely that you realised it was more important to survive and keep fighting to make it to the end. But is it really the end that you keep struggling all the way? Is it that hope you keep up for an happy ending? I just want you to know that whatever you have struggled for is not just to end the suffering but to escape into a new beginning. Its not just the end that we live for, we live to begin and emerge into even more stronger. Things also end when you quit. So what differs your survival from quitting? The courage to move into another dimension of life.

 Your efforts are not just meant for the war to end but what is after the war that matters the most. You kept fighting for the peace, for entering into a complete new world where you leave your past behind. We never really get away with things, we just land into another. Our escape from one situation is like accepting the invitation for another one. 

                  This battle is not to just to win over hard days but to get your life back. And those scars, those scars will fade too. You will get the justice. But don’t wait for it, instead work for it.

Don’t accept the hostility that the world offers you, instead create your own world.